The famous quote from Romeo and Juliet settles things in such practical terms that it reminds us that we need to stop our mental rambling and go back to smell the roses. Somewhere deep down we know what is right and what we need to do, but we have clogged our instrument guide and no wonder everything seems like an option.
When we are lost, we go around in circles
This is an incredible fact about walkers who are lost. Scientists have put forward different answers for this phenomenon, however some explanations are a little, let’s say childlike scientific proposals. It is interesting however that when we live our lives without a guide or objectives, and do not plan the process to get a determined aim and stick to it, we do go around in circles. We end up with the sexual partners that reflect our parents, jobs that remind us of what we don’t want to see in ourselves, or repeating patterns of circumstances we dread.
My intuition is that it is an embedded fail-safe mechanism in our brain that helps us to not get really lost. If you are lost in the woods, it is better to come back to the point of departure than to stray completely. If you are conscious and plan what you are doing, then very likely you won’t go in circles and hopefully will get to a safe haven. But if not, you will come back to the starting point… and with any luck will realize and change strategy.
@DreamDigitalArtist at Pixabay
There is a saying in Venezuela that states: Tras el baquiano manque se pierda [English: follow the expert, even if he gets lost]. That is why I write, there is something inside me that is smart and wise, it guides me and teaches me; I give it voice so it will show me the way. That is why Connecting the Dots in my life is such an asset for living a fruitful and purposeful life.
A few facts about our heart
The Heart has been romanticized enough, but there are certain facts about it that need to be put forward. “The heart’s electrical field is about 60 times greater in amplitude than the electrical activity generated by the brain (and) more than 100 times greater in strength than the field generated by the brain”.[1] It’s no surprise, we are children of this earth, and our spacecraft-home has a very powerful magnetic field that protects our planet from that life destroyer we call the Sun.
Photo references[1]
It is also interesting that we “feel” the I we call self is in the head, therefore the brain, mostly because our visual sensory system takes half our brain power to provide us with vision. Also, because we are overwhelmed with the identity generated by our visual information. But our true source of corporal beingness resides in the heart; it has its own nervous system with over 40,000 neurons.
The furnace of Life ignites the heart, be willing
We have lost connection with our inner value system and our moral guidance. Ethics is not a moral value system; it is a skill to guide ourselves to be and act in the world. Therefore, as with any other skill, it needs to be exercised and developed. I see something and I discern if it is worth striving for or avoiding; thus, I act accordingly. That discernment or “decision” is precisely your ethics, it is a guiding compass, and it needs fine-tuning.
Conflict, obstacles, confusion, adversity, and problems are all Life’s way to rattle and ignite us… because we need to be rattled. I do believe our heart is an organ of fire, but it needs to be jumpstarted. Some people find their calling and are driven to follow it and are able to take on whatever obstacle to reach their aspiration. Their heart is ignited, their source of fire. They may be wrongly oriented, but that’s easier to focus; what’s really an overwhelming task is to start or discover passion.
I know how hard it is. I was once ignited, but then I let the fire go out. How did I jump start the fire again, as with everything, through work. I started to look for it, ask the universe for it, looked for people who I thought were ignited. Read and listened to as much as I could… then I stumbled across Jordan Peterson, it was a clip on his dissertation on sacrifice and “his” bio-evolutionary theory of how it came about. It just connected so many other thoughts and memories of my latter studies on theology and philosophy. I saved the clip, but it took another year and half, a divorce and pain that drove me to despair, to really jumpstart my heart; and even then, another year of “arranging and making my space beautiful” 😉, beginning to draw and write again, and decide that I needed to write a book and start with the work.
You see, Life provides the furnace where you can be ignited. If you open yourself to adversity and ask with all your soul for a way out, it will allow your heart to expand and grow to include more than you are used to. One way to define growth is the capacity to embrace opposites. Your mind has more difficulties doing this if it’s not impulsed by your heart.
El que besa, busca la boca
(English: he who wants to kiss, reaches for the mouth)
We all want to have an extraordinary life, be in love, have a meaningful job or project that will make us financially free, and so on. It is a wish list; we are not in love with anything. We don’t love ourselves, because we continuously get ourselves in trouble; we don’t love others, because we are too centered on ourselves. We think we love beauty, but seldom do we invest time to develop our inner taste for it (which is culture). How can we arrive somewhere when our aspiration and commitment to getting there is missing?
You want to have an extraordinary life? Fall in love with it. Learn to love what you need and are responsible for doing. Tell yourself I LOVE MY LIFE. Look for beauty in everything you do; embrace adversity and find where beauty is hiding there… it will embrace you back.
To be loved by Life, you need to love Life first… as always, first you sow, then you reap. Your heart knows this, let it grow and embrace Life.
Come and smell the roses in the midst of chaos!
Photo @pixel2013 at Pixabay / Quote: Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince
[1] Human Magnetic Field: researchgate.net http://bit.ly/3EHOvb3
Planet Magnetic Field: https://carnegiescience.edu/news/how-does-earth-sustain-its-magnetic-field
[1] The HeartMath Institute, Chapter Science of the Heart; https://bit.ly/3SXmrFl